Book Title: SNAP! Change Your Personality in 30 Days
Authors: Gary Small, MD, Director UCLA Longevity Center and Gigi Vorgan
Category: Adult Nonfiction, 224 pages
Genre: Self-Help / Personality / Health, Mind & Body
Publisher: Humanix Books
Release date: January 9, 2018
Tour dates: Feb 5 to 23, 2018
Content Rating: G
New York Times bestselling author Dr. Gary Small’s breakthrough plan to improve your personality for a better life!
Experts in psychiatry and psychology have long believed that our personalities are essentially set from early childhood and remain consistent throughout life. However, the latest scientific research contradicts this long-held assumption. New compelling evidence indicates that we can change our personalities – either on our own, with the help of a therapist, or a combination of the two – and meaningful personality change can be achieved in a snap! – as quickly as 30 days. These groundbreaking findings have shattered the false belief that we are locked into our negative personality traits – no matter how much they hinder our potential happiness and success.
As you read SNAP! you will gain a better understanding of who you are now, how others see you, and which aspects of yourself you’d like to change. You will acquire the tools you need to change your personality in just one month – it won’t take years of psychotherapy, self-exploration or re-hashing every single bad thing that’s ever happened to you. If you are committed to change, this book will provide a roadmap to achieving your goals and becoming a better you.
From New York Times bestselling author, head of the UCLA Longevity Center, and expert in neuroscience and human behavior, Dr. Gary Small, a practical look at the key components of personality development and tools and techniques for bringing the positive aspects of your personality to the forefront so you can become more successful, attractive, happier, and psychologically healthier.
Can You Be Too Agreeable?
By Gary Small, MD, and Gigi Vorgan
Many people have an agreeable personality, a trait that has many advantages in life. Agreeable people are friendly, helpful, and trustworthy – that’s why most of us enjoy being around them. They are resilient and adaptable, and they do well at jobs that require strong interpersonal relationships.
Being agreeable is also associated with better health outcomes and longer life expectancy. The strong relationships enjoyed by agreeable people serve to reduce anxiety and lower levels of stress hormones, which can otherwise increase the risk for heart disease, diabetes, Alzheimer’s disease, and other age-related conditions.
Despite the many benefits of the agreeableness personality trait, it is possible to be overly agreeable. If a person continually avoids conflict of any kind, their agreeableness can become dysfunctional.
Disagreements often need to be resolved rather than avoided lest they fester feelings of ill-will. Left unresolved, these feelings may be expressed indirectly in passive-aggressive behaviors like pouting and procrastination, which can be infuriating. We’re all familiar with those annoying, passive-aggressive comments like, “It was only a joke;” “I didn’t realize you wanted it now;” or “You look great for someone your age.”
Many overly-agreeable people will keep doing things for others until their anger either seeps out indirectly through sarcastic comments or eventually through explosive outbursts. In our new book, SNAP! Change Your Personality in 30 Days, we show readers how to dial up or dial down their levels of agreeableness in order to achieve their goals and improve their lives.
One strategy is learning constructive anger expression. Those with passive-aggressive tendencies often benefit from the following suggestions:
- When you express yourself, try to focus on the issue that made you angry, not the person who made you angry.
- Remain civil throughout the conversation.
- If the discussion heats up too much, conflict resolution is unlikely. Take a break if things become too contentious and return later when you have cooled off.
- Be sure to listen to the other person’s side of the issue and acknowledge it when you are wrong.
Even though agreeableness can be an asset, remember that sometimes the nice guy finishes last. If you are timid and overly modest, you may not feel comfortable asking your boss for a higher salary. Also, being too agreeable can sometimes come off as insincere and groveling. The “yes man” in an organization often seems disingenuous and would probably be the last person one would go to for honest advice.
The tendency to always agree with others is also correlated with greater gullibility and risk for becoming a scam victim. Overly trusting people are more likely to fall for the “once-in-a-lifetime opportunity” being offered over the phone or Internet from a stranger.
Dr. Gary Small, (Los Angeles, CA) is a professor of psychiatry and director of the UCLA Longevity Center* at the Semel Institute for Neuroscience & Human Behavior. His research, supported by the NIH, has made headlines in the Wall Street Journal and the New York Times. Scientific American magazine named him one of the world’s leading innovators in science and technology. Dr. Small lectures internationally and frequently appears on the Today Show, Good Morning America, PBS, and CNN. He has written six books, including the New York Times best seller, The Memory Bible.
Gigi Vorgan (Los Angeles, CA) has written, produced, and appeared in numerous feature films and television projects before teaming up with her husband, Dr. Gary Small, to co-write The Memory Bible, The Memory Prescription,The Longevity Bible, iBrain, The Other Side of the Couch, and The Alzheimer’s Prevention Program. She lives in Los Angeles with Dr. Small and their two children.
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