Paperback & ebook, 312 pages
July 1st 2017 by Harlequin Heartwarming
She’s bringing his son home
A missing little boy triggers San Diego K-9 officer Shannon Clemens and her canine search-and-rescue partner into instant action. For the rookie cop haunted by a childhood tragedy, bringing Sawyer Evans’s son safely home is more than a job. It’s a mission she can’t fail… But forging a friendship with the father is a tactical error that could compromise her first solo assignment. Yet the deepening bond between them is almost impossible to resist…
Sawyer’s Single-Father Tips
I’m thrilled to be visiting your blog today to celebrate the release of Home to Stay, the second of my three 2017 releases and the fourth book in the San Diego K-9 Unit series!
Authors often incorporate topics in their books that they don’t know much about. To make their stories credible, they do research. When I was asked to write this post about Sawyer’s single-father tips, not being a single father, I naturally thought to research the topic and ask some men who are.
First, let’s acknowledge that being a single dad—or mom—is hard. So here are the top ten tips (try saying that fast ten times!! ) I came up with.
1. Establish a Routine
Children require a degree of structure and predictability, and it helps fathers, too. Keep daily events, such as mealtimes and bedtime, as regular as possible. A predictable routine structures the day and provides the child with a sense of security. Don’t try to squeeze in extra playtime at night if you had to stay late at work. Kids need their sleep, and dads require some kid-free time to get things accomplished and decompress.
2. Make Time to Play
No matter how busy life is or how tired you are, you have to make time for relaxing and having fun with your child. Turn off the television and video games, and focus on enjoying each other’s company.
3. Ask for Help
Don’t feel that you have to do it all on your own. Establish a network of family and friends who you trust and can turn to when needed. There is no shame in asking for help when required.
4. Create a Manageable Work Schedule
You’re unlikely to succeed as a single parent if your work responsibilities dominate your life. On the other hand, you can’t let your job performance slide either. Establish a healthy work/personal-life balance. Most companies are sympathetic to the needs of single parents and will work with you to set schedule that are manageable for the parent and the business. Work-from-home options are also available at some companies. Again, there is no shame in letting your employer know that you are a single parent and need some consideration.
5. Share the Burden
Involve your child in getting things done around the home. Collaborate with him or her, and they’ll see themselves as part of a family team, working together. This will help take some of the burden off you and have the added benefit of teaching your child responsibility from an early age.
6. Give Yourself a Break
As a single dad, you may find yourself struggling to meet your many responsibilities. If you’re constantly worn out, you won’t be the best parent you can be. Take time to recharge your yourself and (in keeping with recommendation 3. above) arrange for your child to spend time with a grandparent or a babysitter when you need some time on your own. And don’t use that time for housework or other chores. Do something fun with your friends or something else that gives you enjoyment. Schedule some kid-free time for yourself occasionally. When you are happy and relaxed you can keep your kids happy and be a better parent.
7. Keep Your Cool
We can all lose our temper, and being a single parent can be frustrating at times. You’re probably not getting a lot of sleep, you’re working hard at your job and, when you’re not working, you’re taking care of your child. A schedule like that can challenge anyone’s patience. It’s important to find the appropriate mechanism for releasing your emotions. Refer back to recommendation 3. and reach out to family and friends when you need to unburden.
8. Set Goals for Yourself
This recommendation goes with number 6. Give Yourself a Break. You cannot forget about yourself. As a single father, you can’t stagnate or forget about your own needs and priorities. It’s essential that you move forward with your life. By setting specific goals for yourself, you can make sure that this happens. And by taking care of yourself, you’ll be better able to care for your child.
9. Don’t Criticize Your Ex
Regardless of how your relationship ended with the mother of your child, don’t criticize her in front of him or her. More generally, don’t criticize women. It’s important for you to show your child respect for his mother and women in general.
10. Have Fun!
This final recommendation might be the simplest but most important one. Don’t forget to have fun! Yes, parenting—especially single parenting—is hard work. Have fun with your child and spend quality time together. Go to the park. Visit the zoo or a library. Go see a movie. Toss a ball around. Fun activities will strengthen your relationship with your child and take his or her mind off the fact that the mother is not present.
Now it’s your turn! Please let me know in the comments section: 1) Which do you consider the top three tips? 2) Did I miss any that you think are important? 3) Do any of the ones I included not make sense to you? I look forward to your thoughts!
It’s a pleasure to be visiting here today. You can connect with me by e-mail (firstname.lastname@example.org), through my website (www.kate-james.com), my Facebook page (www.facebook.com/katejamesbooks), Twitter (@katejamesbooks) or regular mail at PO Box 446, Schomberg, ON, L0G 1T0, Canada.
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Kate’s goal is to entertain her readers with engaging stories featuring strong, likable characters. Kate has been honored with numerous awards for her writing. She and her husband, Ken, enjoy traveling and the outdoors, with their beloved Labrador Retrievers, Harley and Logan.
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July 14: Grand Finale
· A gorgeous aqua cross-body bag;
· “Dreamer Extraordinaire” charm bookmark;
· signed copy of When Love Matters Most, the second book in the San Diego K-9 Unit series);
· signed copy of When I Found You, the third book in the San Diego K-9 Unit series;
· an assortment of bookmarks and bookplates; and
· a $20 Amazon gift card.
· (US/CAN – if winner lives elsewhere, will receive ebooks & gift card instead)
Ends July 18th